Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

21 Nov 2012

Memories and Expectations.

My due date with Wiggles is fast approaching. The induction date is even closer. This is a relief.

It's also a deadline, if I may use the word, to find out whether our hearts will be broken again or not.
Since most babies live, I give it 51% chance of everything being ok. That's huge. Yesterday it was 50/50.

I keep myself busy so that I don't go insane (yes, I can't sleep at night because I count kicks, I have panic attacks from things that remind me of same time of pregnancy with Amelia, like dark evenings and big pregnant belly, and while I don't expect this baby to die, I can't imagine this baby living either).

I nest.

Part of nesting, a really big part actually, is going through all of the things we had ready for Amelia. I'm so grateful for them, but they do bring tears to my eyes and ache to my heart. It would have hurt more if I didn't have them, but it hurts still. They all remind me of what was, and what never has a chance to be. I miss my little girl so much.

I also have to turn Amelia's room into a room more appropriate for a newborn baby. It's hard. Her changing table used to be storage for candles, keepsakes, gifts. Now I have to find new places for those things. Not because I expect baby to live, but in case I have to grieve two babies, I will have room for that... So I just carried out a lantern I have for Amelia from her room into the living room. Somehow that really hurt. It is a huge change. Maybe it's for the better, maybe not.

Not knowing is the hardest part.

18 days left...


  1. It suddenly struck me today that Amelia is already a big sister! And I was thinking that I need to make sure I tell Wiggles how much I love him/her on Saturday & Sunday this weekend in case it's my last chance. I don't really think Wiggles will die but that's because a)I can't bear the thought, b)I have no f***ing idea. And most important, c)I don't want Wiggles to die please please please whoever is in charge of these things. xo

  2. Sweet darling, Wiggles will be ok, he/she just HAS to! I love you so much and I keep praying for you. Have no fear, leave it to us so you can just do your thing, give birth to the little one! We want nothing more than to see your happy tears and hear the baby crying, demanding to be fed. I'm ready, the camera is ready. I know you are too. Sending you LOVE and positive energy. sis.